The actress, 52, and her boyfriend, 62, have recently split after dating for more than three years, sources familiar with the matter has confirmed.
“It was the distance,” a source close to the pair told reporters. “She lives in New York and he resides in Indiana. It was the long distance that ultimately was the cause.”
Privacy, or lack of, lead to the breakup, the friend revealed. “I don’t think he loved all the attention he got just from dating an actress,” the pal told Closer. “I bet he’ll stay away from dating another famous person for a while.”
The couple – who were last spotted together a few months ago – became dating in late 2010, shortly after Mellencamp’s split from wife Elaine after 18 years of marriage.
“They kept a low profile during the past three years, stepping out together for the occasional industry event and being spotted now and again on the streets of New York,” PEOPLE Magazine reports.
However, Indiana native Mellencamp had expressed his unhappiness at calling New York City home.
“I’m too sensitive to live there,” he told “Rolling Stone” in December. “I can’t see poor people. I can’t see the suffering. I can’t see the trash on the streets.”
When it comes to paparazzi’s noisy attention, he went on, adding, “I don’t like it for [Ryan]. “I’m not leaving Indiana. I’m going to die here.”
Both stars have big projects coming up: Mellencamp, a father of five children, is getting prepared to release his 22nd album, “Plain Spoken”, in November. Meanwhile, Ryan, who has son Jack, 22, with ex-husband Dennis Quaid, and daughter Daisy, 9, has been busy working on her directorial debut, “Ithaca”, a WWII coming-of-age drama that’s being executive-produced by Ryan’s “Sleepless in Seattle” costar Tom Hanks.
“The film marks a major return to Hollywood for the very private actress, who has deliberately avoided the spotlight since making her last major film, 2008’s “The Women”. The onetime soap star had been poised to make her small-screen return this fall with a new pilot and the role of the narrator in the planned “How I Met Your Mother” spin-off, but neither show was picked up,” PEOPLE say.
Reps for the pair have not yet commented. Closer Weekly first broke news of the split.
John Mellencamp has been married three times before and has five children, including two sons with Elaine.
Ryan has been married once, to actor Dennis Quaid with whom she divorced in 2001 after 10 years of marriage. They have a son, Jack Henry, who is 18. Ryan also has a daughter, Daisy True, 6, whom she adopted from China.
“Dennis was not faithful to me for a long time, and that was very painful,” the actress said at the time, adding, “I am not a victim. I was there. I was in that marriage for a really long time.”
“It was also incredibly liberating,” she tells the magazine of the public split. “Now I was utterly free. I didn’t have to care about what people thought. I have gotten to do what I guess I secretly wanted to do. Be totally under the radar and live my life.”