Belgian Discovers His Wife Used to be a Man After 19 Years

After 19 years of marriage, a 64-year-old Belgian man wants to have his marriage annulled after he discovered that his Indonesian wife had been born a man and had later undergone a sex change.

A Belgian man feels ‘assaulted’ after recently discovering his wife of 19 years used to be a man. Now he wants his marriage annulled.Photo: zoej1983/ Flickr

A Belgian is seeking to have his marriage annulled after discovering that his Indonesian wife of 19 years had been born a man.

The man, only named as Jan, married Monica, his family’s former au pair in a previous marriage, in 1993 despite legal difficulties raised by the Belgian immigration authorities.

It looks like a perfect sweet story: two people fall in love despite cultural and societal differences and fight “the man” to maintain their romance.

But sometime after “happily ever after,” Jan’s love story turned into hell and the whole world seemed to fall into pieces, when he found out in recent weeks that Monica was originally a man, and had undergone a sex change.

He man said: “I feel I’ve been assaulted”, the Telegraph reports. “I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway.

Jan, whose last name remains a secret, continued: “I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits.”

The 64-year-old met Monica, 48, from Indonesia when she worked as an au pair for his family nearly 20 years ago. ‘Jan’, who had been married twice before, didn’t suspect a thing for many years.

Jan said he and his wife had decided not to have children because he had two by his previous marriage and she fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels, “to conceal the truth”.

“Even during sex, I never noticed anything,” he said. For many years, the couple lived a normal family life and Monica was like a “big sister” to his children until their marriage started to come under strain when she got a new full-time job

Jan’s son was the first one notice something different about his step-mother. He saw her several times at night clubs, wearing very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her stomach was completely exposed.

Also his friends heard some rumors about Monica and her passed came out to the light. So after discovering “amorous messages” from other men on her computer, he confronted her in a violent row that led to the police being called.

The man told media: “I pushed her against the wall and said. Now I know the truth. Are you a man? She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on.

She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”

Today Jan and Monica still live in the same house, but don’t exchange a word. Legal proceedings to get ‘Monica’ out of the house failed. Jan is now seeking an annulment of the marriage.

Now the 64-year-old is undergoing psychiatric treatment following the discovery, The Telegraph says.

Liliane Verjauw, his lawyer commented in the fact: “That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. Presumably she has also forged documents used here to get a residence permit. The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated.”

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