Men Paying for Sex from Prostitutes Looking for True Love, Study Finds

NEW YORK | Wednesday, September 5th, 2012 4:30am EDT

It was found out that some men do believe they really can buy love.

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A new study suggests that men who pay prostitutes for sex hope to find something a bit more complicated – true love. Photo: Nina Jean/Flickr

A recent study conducted by a George Washington University professor, claims an estimated one-third sex workers’ clients wish to have a personal relationship with their provider.

Christine Milrod and Ronald Weitzer examined 2,442 postings on an online discussion board from a sex provider review site where millions of prostitutes’ clients post about their experiences, reports CBS News.

The results showed that about one-third included a discussion about emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.

Which is more, many of them wished to raise their relationships to a higher level in the form of sharing private feelings and mutual love.

“In our data, approximately one-third of the 2,442 postings contained discussions of emotional intimacy in client-provider relationships,” said Dr. Weitzer.

The data shows that the website, TheEroticReview, receives between 250,000 and 300,000 unique visitors every day and contains more than 800,000 reviews and the contact information of 75,000 to 100,000 sex providers.

“A significant portion of these clients discover, at some point, that they want some emotional connection in addition to the sexual component.”

Many of the reviews, read and posted between May 9, 2006 and July 15, 2011, featured frank expressions of a desire for more than physical satisfaction.

For example, one poster, “One-Is-Al-One,” writes, ‘‘I love the sex, but it has recently occurred to me that I do it for more than sex. I do it for the affection, closeness, emotional connection, and the sexual release.’’

Los Angeles sexologist, Christine Milrod explained: “In recent years, we have come to see a gradual normalization of independent escort prostitution, where sexual encounters have come to resemble quasi-dating relationships.”

“Our study shows that regular clients of a particular sex provider often come to experience feelings of deep affection, which can progress into an authentic love story,” the professor added.

“Sex remains part of the service but it is coupled with mutual sharing, support, and companionship. This type of sexual commerce offers intangible benefits that mirror unpaid relationships—except that the amity and intimacy are paid for.”

One survey showed that 32 percent of customers arrested for soliciting a prostitute said they bought sex because they ‘‘didn’t have time’’ for a conventional relationship.

28 percent did not want ‘‘the responsibilities’’ inherent in such a relationship, and 18 percent explained that they would ‘‘rather have sex with a prostitute than have a conventional relationship with a woman.’’

By the way, many of the sex workers interviewed said that they “catered to the men’s emotional needs” and described many of them as, “highly respectful” and sometimes “more caring than the other men in their ‘true’ personal lives.”

One-third of them confessed they desired something more than just the physical release of “the hobby” as it is called by many sex customers.

A Boston man cautioned, “Men in this hobby who think they are only after sex are deceiving themselves. Sex always involves emotion, with the possibility for eventual affection, closeness, and emotional connection always lurking there.”

He went on, adding: “People can fall in love when they least expect it. And that love can last, even while one or both parties are married … and even when one is a provider.”

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