White, who alleges a 13-year affair with Cain, told The Daily Beast what it was like to be romantically involved with the one-time candidate and Godfather’s Pizza CEO.
White, who is 46 and has been divorced three times, said that her relationship with Cain had begun while she had been legally separated from her first husband, John White, the father of her two children.
When she met Cain at an event in Louisville, where she lived at the time, he was as bold as he was seductive, she said.
“I was pretty amazed at how a person could just come up to you at a cocktail party, and an hour and a half later he wanted me to follow him to his hotel room to plan our first trip to Palm Springs,” said White, who was then working as a clerk at a transportation company.
Although Cain has been married for 43 years, the subject of his wife almost never came up, said White, who has never met Gloria Cain. “I knew he was married; he had his wedding band on,” she said. “But not until maybe our fourth trip did he even admit he had kids or mention his wife. That’s why I’ve been able to not think about it all these years.”
White apologized to Cain’s wife, Gloria, and his children Thursday. “I am deeply, deeply sorry if I have caused any hurt to her and to his kids, to his family. That was not my intention. I never wanted to hurt anyone, and I’m deeply sorry. I am very sorry,” she said on MSNBC’s “The Last Word.”
White said that over the years, her arrangement with Cain took an emotional toll. “One time we were having sex, and I was looking up at the ceiling, thinking about, ‘What am I going to buy at the grocery store tomorrow? What am I going to do with my kids tomorrow?’” she recalled.
“One time after we had sex, I cried. He said, ‘Maybe we shouldn’t do this for a while.’ So maybe he did have a heart—or half a heart. But I knew I needed his financial help.”
White said ahe had no illusions about her relationship with Cain. “Never was I in love with him,” she said. “In the beginning I was naive and intrigued by this person. Initially it was exciting, but when I started knowing who he was, it became less and less fun.
White also told the Daily Beast’s Leslie Bennetts that “Cain wasn’t the only man who helped her financially; her work history and her sex life have long been intermingled in complex and contradictory ways.’’
“I’ve supported my kids,’’ White told Bennetts, “and I never wanted to let my kids go without. When I was having trouble making a payment on something, there was this powerful man saying, ‘I’ll help you out.’
I remember a time when I was looking for a job, and I became separated from my first husband, John, and somebody said, ‘All you have to do is get in front of the owner of this company, and he will give you a job, because you’re pretty. And he did. The owner offered me a job, and by the end of the day, he asked me out and said, ‘I can help you with some extra money.’ So that’s what happened, for probably six months or so. I wasn’t the only one he was ‘helping.’”
“I have dealt with the problem of sexual harassment since I was 19—maybe not at such a severe level, but I’ve always dealt with it,” she said. “In my world, women are treated as if they were a piece of meat. The shorter your skirt was and the prettier you were, the more they wanted you in front of the client.”
For White, getting men to supplement her income that way “started becoming a game,” she said. “It was easy for me to get help like that. It makes you a bit cold. You have to be just as clever as they are, just as cold as they are, just as calculating as they are—and sometimes beat them at their own game.
Cain acknowledged that he gave White financial help with “month-to-month bills and expenses,” without telling his wife, Gloria. He described White as a friend but denied any sexual affair with her.
Cain announced Saturday that he was suspending his campaign. “These false and unproved allegations continue … to create a cloud of doubt over me and this campaign and my family,” he said. “That spin hurts. It hurts my wife, it hurts my family, it hurts me, and it hurts the American people, because you’re being denied solutions to our problems.” [via The Daily Beast, Huffington Post and The Washington Post]